So, you're driving along the interstate at night, when some guy comes up behind you, doesn't turn off his high beams, and then races to pass you almost colliding with the car in front of you.

What are you thinking?

"What a jerk!" Right?

So, you immediately assume that the person behind the wheel is an asshole with a lead foot. Did you ever stop to consider that it might be a man with a pregnant wife going into labor who needs to get to a hospital? Or some business man who's extremely late for a conference?

Another example perhaps? You're a teenager, in high school, and you've just spotted a girl not in your clique wearing an outfit you saw on sale the other day. So you're either thinking, "what a cheap skate!" or, "Hey! I wanted that! She stole that from me!"

People today don't stop to think about things, they assume something, and make a decision in only a matter of seconds. And maybe sometimes that can be handy. Sometimes it can save your life. If you don't like the look of the guy walking towards you, and you turn into the nearest shop, who's to say that it wasn't a mugger with a knife and a thirst for your blood? But then again, who's to say it wasn't an honest respectable citizen? You could have just saved your own skin, or you could have bewildered a man walking home to his wife. Either way, there's no harm done, and if it was a dangerous person, then you've done pretty well for yourself.

But when you let your assumptions guide your actions, that's when people get mad.

Let's imagine for a moment, that you just heard a person say this, "Oh! Sometimes, I just can not stand him/her!" Naturally, you're curious as to who they're talking about. You might wonder if they're saying that about you, or one of your friends, or even someone you don't particularly like. Now, what if they mentioned a name? Let's say, it's the name of one of your favorite teachers. What would you do? Well, if you were a bold person, you would go up to them and confront them, and perhaps yell and whatnot. But think about this, what if they were saying that because that teacher picked on them in class, or gave the person a load of homework for accidentally dropping something? You wouldn't know this, but you would be too upset about what they've said to even consider it wouldn't you?

When someone confronts you for something you've done or said that offended them, what do you think is going through their head? Yeah, they're upset because they think you are just being a jerk to them, or you don't like them, or something's just crawled up your ass today. They haven't taken the time to think it through either. They just know that you've said or done something that rubbed them the wrong way, and they want to let you know you're wrong, or that you're a jerk.

Nobody stops to consider anything in the world today. They're either too busy, or too upset. All I'm asking is that you just think for a minute about what you're assuming. Give people the benefit of the doubt! Sometimes they deserve it! Get your facts straight; don't end up looking like an idiot because you made a mistake, or because you won't let them explain what really happened.

Before you get upset about something and fly into a rage at a person, try to think through all the possible angles. You don't know their reasons, or every fact and incident that led up to what set you off. Don't assume that you do.

People aren't mind readers, they can't think of everything. People can't explain every aspect of what they do to every person they see. If you're upset about something, why not try asking them why they said or did something like that before you start yelling, flaming, etc.

Think First, Ask Questions Later!