5Blessings and Wisdom by a Veteran of Young Love
It was December 3, 1990 for me. That truly was a milestone, because at that point,
I overcame the destructive relatonship that I was in, and this milestone made it official.
You see, none of my relationships had lasted that long. Not even the toxic one.
It's really hard to give advice when we're all in different circumstances. I mean, each relationship is so completely different.
What I can preach to are the similarities, my observations of your relationship, and how we made ours stand the test of time.
The FAVORITE test. Each one of you think of your most favorite possession or thing to do. Then plan to give it up for the sake of the relationship.
Now, you may not HAVE to give it up, but mentally prepare yourself that it will take THAT kind of commitment to make it work.
Prepare for People not buying it. When we finally got married, my own mother is rumored to have said to family friends, "I give this marriage 3 months."
I will be celebrating 14 years of marriage later this month. You can't let people influence the relationship. It is the two of you...and as long as you are good to each other,
that is all it will ever need to be.
Do you feel like the luckiest person on the planet because the other one loves you so much? I do.
Do you ask yourself every day why they would be with a clown/dork/goof like you for so long? I do.
Do you brag about the other one ALL the time? I do.
When you plan things for the future, do you include the opinions of the other one? I better
Do you think of the next little thing to do to make the other one smile? All the time.
How bad does that 'little thing that annoys you about that person' truly annoy you? Remember, you gotta let it go, or you'll be haunted by it forever!
Always be honest.
Always tell them that you love them.
Always show your pride for the other one, especially around other people.
There is nothing better than letting the other person overhear you saying how proud you are of them, when you you don't know that they're there!
When you are arguing, that thing that you think about that you know would cut the throat of the other one and pretty much deal the knockout blow...just don't say it, you may regret it later.
Try your best to not store a mental inventory of flaws and mistakes; I know that it is human nature, but that's just it...we're all human. Showcase the positive in them.
And if you can look into the eyes of the other one and truly see the love...hang onto it.
People say that buying a house is the biggest investment that we make as creatures on earth. I disagree with that.
Investing in your happiness together for the rest of your life is far more important.
Try not to be selfish. Love unconditionally. Support each other completely.
I am very proud and I love you both. Keep up the great work...in your relationship and in your lives.
Happy Anniversary.