Clean As You Go
My grandmother saw fit to buy me whatever I needed
new clothes for school
toys, all the ones I wanted
I spent nights weeks summers with her
She was my guardian angel
she'd float down and pull me from the depths of hell
Until you blamed me for her death
she stayed with me one of her last days
while you went to paint the town
we ordered pizza
PIZZA
fuck you, she wanted it
and to the woman who saved my life a thousand times
she was getting it
it wasn't good for her diet
but the tumor killed her, bitch
Paths made in my room
I had so many toys
Only child that I was for 10 years
Single parent
Selfish parent
Here take this and shut up
I didn't want everything I always wanted
I wanted my friend's family
Clean as you go
would've prevented my clutter-filled room
All the lies I wouldn't tell
but take the punishment anyway
How many times did I tell you what you wanted to hear?
Just to shut you the hell up
I was maybe ten
Eleven o'clock is late on a school night
to pretend to talk, to discipline, to be a good mom
Dirty from playing outside
I was a little boy
did you find it necessary to scrub the backs of my ears
until they were raw?
grounded for being a boy
surprised that I have any testosterone left at all
dignity as well
you and your controlling dominatrix ways
some sort of twisted focus
Clean as you go
mustn't be dirty
I embarrassed you everywhere we went
oh, how I misbehaved
how you took me to the ladies room every time
how you threatened me through clenched teeth
You couldn't choke on your tongue fast enough for me
other people saw it
Who taught you to hit with a belt, anyway?
I'm glad you cried when the buckle "accidentally" broke skin
across my back, weren't you supposed to be hitting my ass?
just wait until I'm big enough to stop you
Clean as you go
the chores weren't done to your liking
was I a fucking maid?
you "worked" all the time, coming to pick me up at my aunt's
smelling like booze with some different guy
hoping to score
I don't resent chores
I resent you
you got remarried had more kids
who was I?
the fucking babysitter built in
and you still fucked everything that gave you attention
while you were "separated"
yet he'd be back in a week
until that marriage fell apart
it was only a matter of time
clean as you go
it was a "fresh start"
Again
except now you were just too selfish for any man
have another pill
you are in rough shape you know
how many doctors do you have?
as a teen I couldn't live with you
I couldn't stand you
I didn't pretend to know everything
I just knew that you were done
with pretending
to be my mother
as an adult, I see that I wasn't a punk
teenager like you would have everyone believe
you treat me like shit
still
when I got married, you hated my guest list
fuck you
show up when the ladies are making the centerpieces
help with the planning
then your fucking vote counts
keep your predictions to yourself
who looks like the ass now?
you are just as bad a grandmother
my kids think of you as a "distant aunt"
that always shows up on the holidays
with cards from the missed birthdays
you could've came
you knew
you just prefer to tell everyone that you
aren't welcome here
well, now you're right
you have had too many chances
I am done with civil
you act like you care to everyone
and then never show
your bullshit stories have peaked
clean as you go
my daughter's concerts
i told you well in advance
even reserved you a seat
an empty seat yet again
the butt of all jokes
but that was it
I peaked
I'm done
Clean as you go
there isn't a therapist out there that can determine
what the hell that means
in my profession, it means to work efficiently
to gain space and keep things clean
that's what I'm doing with you
I'm making room
for my own life
for my daughters and their college ceremonies
and weddings
and my grandkids
I'm taking the dirty that is you out
and living clean
no more conscience
no more guilt trips
i will call you out every time
i don't care who tries to stick up for you
because if there is any doubt as to
whether I should
see above
maybe you should try it
stop dosing
stop being selfish
stop making people feel bad about themselves
clean as you go