Swearing. We all do it. I do mean all of us. Even that very, very uber religious girl in the back. Or the crazy strict parents any of you might have. I know you've sworn at least once in your life. Because swearing is a part of language. And all languages have swearwords.

There's a reason why. To show extreme displeasure to any given situation and/or to signify extreme emotion. However, in this modern era, swearing has been deemed crude, rude, and unreasonable in America. Yet have you noticed that kids and teens swear more than ever? Over silly, trivial things. Oh no, someone dropped a plate! Is it broke? No. Cracked? No. Damaged in any way shape or form? No. But you still might hear, "Oh, f**k!" Now that's pointless. It makes swearing meaningless. You must swear correctly if I am able to defend swearing at all.

I'm not going to tell you that swearing is evil and is a sin and we're all going to hell… blah blah blah. No. Nor am I going to say, "Haha, let's all swear because it's so fun, la-la-la!"

Swearing is a good form of free expression. In France, swearing isn't looked down upon half as much as it is in America. Those French, they know what they're doing. In France, they recognize that swearing is a part of language, and all forms of language are there for reason. No one would make up a word when it has no point. Even nonsense words have the point of amusing the creator or creator's acquaintances. So making it socially acceptable to swear accomplishes two things. One being it takes the thrill out of swearing for youth, and they won't do it as much. Two. If there's no fun in swearing, you would learn to swear correctly.

There are many views on swearing. While some uptight parents or teachers might affirm that swearing is inherently evil and wrong, swearing makes me giggle. I don't swear too much myself, but when someone let's loose a whole rant of cuss, I really, really want to laugh. Others could tell you that they just do it, it doesn't mean anything, and then they're sister will say they don't swear, but don't mind hearing it. And, as always, there's a group who think swearing is "cool."

So let's get to the heart of it. Why did people say that word in the first place? Let's try and imagine the people who first swore a specific swear. I can picture two things. The first being someone really upset.

Picture this. A man walking on the sidewalk, no aim or intention. He just finished a poker game with his buds and is getting home to his wife. He's not drunk, but pretty close to it, when, "HOLY SH*T!" A car swerves right by and almost hits him. And what do you know? He turned "shit," a word once used to describe actual crap, and turned into an expression of extreme surprise/annger. Only late did the word become taboo.

The second picture I have in my mind is of a bunch of teenage guys trying to think of crazy words to demean each other, and figured sex could be an insult. "F**K you, too, man! F**k you, too." Don't get me wrong. Guys probably aren't the only ones who swear and invent swears. I'm almost certain it was a female who coined the term "d**k," but what do you think?

Swearing can be rude, however. So use it in the correct company, first and foremost. Not in front of Grams, and not aimed at your teacher. Those really are social faux-pas's. It is rude, and d*mnit! Respect your teachers!

Getting deeper, swear when you need to- not when you want to. Some people will think it's fun to swear. Why? Why is it fun? Because you're not supposed to? And hasn't that always been a dumb reason to do something? Swearing has more depth when you typically don't do it. If you throw around swears like you throw a base-ball, no one will take you seriously.

But if you don't swear, then when you do it means something. Take, for example, one of my many classmates in school. She never swears. Ever. I have only heard her swear once. Because she doesn't swear, I knew she was really angry. Really, really angry. She's on our soccer team, and the referee of one of the games was not being very fair. All she said was, "He can go to hell." That's not even a real swearword. I don't personally think that was an actual swearword. But coming from her? It was a lot. If I said something of equal impact, it would sound something like this, "F**k, f**k, f**k, f**k you grandma!" And it would have to be directed to a grandparent to be on equal standing.

While it would be all fine and dandy for us all to just not swear period like her, is it realistic? No. My point is swearing less has greater impact when you actually do. I think there are many more times to swear than unequal treatment, though that certainly is on the list. I could go on and on and name them all, but the list can be simplified to this: when you are extreme emotion. The best time would be when you're crying. If you're crying, there is no way you aren't feeling some extreme emotions. Whether you're cussing out a cheating a**hole through tears, or just life in general when a loved one dies, it makes sense to call him every name in the book or d*mn life in general. It would feel relieving- just to say exactly what you think.

Anger can be linked to despair. One is angry when they're cheated on, and mad death took away you're friend. But anger can stand on its own. It's acceptable to swear when you're angry, because it's hard to stop yourself. When I'm angered, I usually don't know what words are coming out of my mouth until after their in the air. Anger closes you're eyes and opens your mouth. It's better to swear, than to shout cruel, hurtful things to the ones you love. I would rather look like an idiot than to hurt my sister by saying things I shouldn't be saying.

I recently read a story. It was about a guy who was absolutely heartbroken. Every other word he said was a swearword. He sounded so helpless and desperate- he swore the way you're supposed to. Not completely outloud and with emotion. Make it passionate! Go all the way! If you couldn't be with the person you're in love with, who makes you smile and laugh, who makes you feel complete, would you want to swear? Wouldn't you just do it?

Or even if you don't fall in love. If your life starts falling apart at the seams, that'd be a lot of stress. You're losing your home and your family is in trouble? You'd swear.

There are many approaches to swearing to. Shouting "SH*T!" at the top of your lungs is loads different from muttering it under your breath. And string along a line of swears is far from using swears as adjectives for every word.

Think about it. Think why swearing is so bad. Words aren't just words. Words are never just words. If they were, teenagers wouldn't be driven to suicide if the jeers and insults from others were "just words." Or "I love you, I'm in love with you," would be "just words." Could you imagine that? One of the most sacred, deep, meaningful phrases in all of history and in all cultures being reduced to just words.

My parents swear in front of my siblings and me sometimes. I used to ask why they were allowed to swear but I wasn't? It's a double standard and they said so. But my parents know when and where and why to swear.

Don't think of swearing as the devil's vocabulary. But also don't do it so casually. And if I offend? Cuss me out as much as you want. Because that's what it's for!