This is part 2 of 3 in the 'How To' trilogy. Part 1 (How To Fall In Love In 24 Hours) is complete and you need to read it first before starting this one to understand what's going on. So if you haven't read it yet, please start there.
This story follows Beth and her choices after experiencing an inexplicable connection with a man she had a one night stand with. How will that encounter affect her life? What decisions would she make? How it would change her path? Will it?
*Original photo for cover by Rohit Tandon on Unsplash
What is love?
"Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and the senses." — Lao Tzu
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." — Aristotle
"I know I am in love with you because my reality is finally better than my dreams." — Dr. Seuss
"Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still elude us. Contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are definitely not seeking it, when it is inconvenient and undesirable." — M. Scott Peck
Let's assume we'd established love. You know you're in love. Now what?
What do you do with the knowledge?
And truth to be told, it's not even knowledge, it's a feeling. Clearly, a feeling that means different things to different people and affects them also in dissimilar ways. Question is, where do you take it?
What decision do you make?
The rough estimated average number of decisions an adult makes every day is 35,000.
How do you know you're making the right one?
How do you even know you're making one?
How do you handle all the possibilities, possible results and inevitable mistakes?
Well, there is no one right answer to any of those. However, there are strategies, methods and models very smart people have come up with to help this process.
In this volume we will be looking at the DECIDE model of decision-making. It was published by Kristina Guo in 2008, and it has the following parts:
1. Define the problem
2. Establish or Enumerate all the criteria (constraints)
3. Consider or Collect all the alternatives
4. Identify the best alternative
5. Develop and implement a plan of action
6. Evaluate and monitor the solution and examine feedback when necessary
As always, personal examples are the best way to demonstrate a concept, so follow along.
Shall we begin?